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Ashley James begs fans not to share their ‘horror birth stories’ as she nears end of pregnancy

She’s due to give birth to her first child in a matter of weeks.

But Ashley James, 33, has insisted she wants to remain positive in the run up to labour, taking to Instagram on Tuesday night to beg her followers not to share their ‘horror stories’ with her.

After posting on Stories about her pregnancy skincare routine, which includes massaging oil into her perineum to help prevent tears during labour, Ashley said she was inundated with birth stories from other women. 

Expecting: Ashley James, 33, has insisted she wants to remain positive in the run up to labour, taking to Instagram on Tuesday night to beg her followers not to share their ‘horror stories’

‘Guys I love this platform and love connecting with so many of you, but please think about what you say and share,’ wrote Ashley. ‘Not just to me but to those around you.

‘I shared that I was using oil based on a friend’s recommendation and experience of having 4 children. I also said I can’t speak from experience as I’ve not given birth yet but am trying it anyway.’

She continued: ‘What is really not helpful of useful or actually kind is to start sharing with me all your stories about how much you teared. How the pain of tearing is worse than birth etc. I really hope you don’t say that to anyone you know who is pregnant either.’

‘I am fully prepared for the realities of labour and afterwards. I like to be positive and only let positive people and stories in my space.’

Advice: After posting about her pregnancy skincre routine, which includes massaging oil into her perineum to help prevent tears during labour, Ashley was inundated with birth stories

Advice: After posting about her pregnancy skincre routine, which includes massaging oil into her perineum to help prevent tears during labour, Ashley was inundated with birth stories

Not helpful: The ex MIC star insisted the 'horror stories' were not helping, adding: 'I like to be positive and only let positive people and stories in my space'

Not helpful: The ex MIC star insisted the ‘horror stories’ were not helping, adding: ‘I like to be positive and only let positive people and stories in my space’

‘The “just you wait” and the horror birth stories are a bit unnnecessary and draining. GOOD VIBES ONLY PEOPLE. Stop trying to scare or put negativity onto pregnant people.’

In a further lengthy post, the former Made In Chelsea star added:  ‘Bear in mind that everyone’s experiences are so different. You might start telling someone about your horror birth story, someone else about stitches, someone else about the lack of sleep, someone else about the nightmare with breastfeeding.’

‘Until that person is experiencing it, they might never need to know.’

Caution: In a further lengthy post, the former Made In Chelsea star added: 'Bear in mind that everyone's experiences are so different'

Caution: In a further lengthy post, the former Made In Chelsea star added: 'Bear in mind that everyone's experiences are so different'

Caution: In a further lengthy post, the former Made In Chelsea star added: ‘Bear in mind that everyone’s experiences are so different’

Back off: Ashley also revealed that she had received 'unsolicited advice' outside if Instagram too, explaining that during a shopping trip this week 'two ladies started to bombard me'

Back off: Ashley also revealed that she had received ‘unsolicited advice’ outside if Instagram too, explaining that during a shopping trip this week ‘two ladies started to bombard me’

Ashley also revealed that she had received ‘unsolicited advice’ outside of Instagram, explaining that during a shopping trip this week ‘two ladies started to bombard me with “just you wait” stuff and “enjoy your sleep whilst you can”.’

‘I honestly cannot get my head around this weird, unhelpful and negative thing. It’s some kind of weird misogny that when you’re pregnant/a new mum people love to step into your space and give unsolicited opinions and scare stories,’ Ashley mused.

‘Honestly just say “congratulations” or “it’s going to be the best” or “if you need anything or face any challenges I’m here.” Keep your passive aggressive comments to yourself. ‘

Feeling good: Ashley showed off her blossoming bump as she revealed her skincare routine

Feeling good: Ashley showed off her blossoming bump as she revealed her skincare routine 

Due January: Ashley is expecting a baby boy with her boyfriend of a year, Tom Andrews

Due January: Ashley is expecting a baby boy with her boyfriend of a year, Tom Andrews

She concluded by joking: ‘I might carry sage around and burn it when people come at me with this nonsense.’

Ashley is expecting a baby boy with her boyfriend of a year, Tom Andrews. 

The star, who famously championed single life, started dating tech professional Tom in October 2019 when they reconnected after meeting a decade earlier at work.

Six months later, the couple discovered they were having their first baby, after Tom moved into Ashley’s London home amid the coronavirus pandemic.

Last month, the couple discovered they are expecting a baby boy, which is due in January 2021.  

Meant to be: Ashley, who famously championed single life, started dating tech professional Tom in October 2019 when they reconnected after meeting a decade earlier at work

Meant to be: Ashley, who famously championed single life, started dating tech professional Tom in October 2019 when they reconnected after meeting a decade earlier at work


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