Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned Dwyane Wade fathered a child with another woman while undergoing IVF treatments and fertility struggles
Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned now-husband Dwyane Wade got another woman pregnant while Union was going through IVF treatments to try and struggling to conceive.
The actress, 48, shares a raw account of the betrayal in her new book You Got Something Stronger, which Time published an excerpt of on Friday.
In the piece, Gabrielle explains: ‘The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily—while I was unable to—left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind.’
Union and Wade would go on to welcome daughter Kaavia via surrogate in 2018.
Devastated: Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned now-husband Dwyane Wade got another woman pregnant while Union was going through IVF treatments to try and conceive
The piece began: ‘In 2013, before we were married, Dwyane had a baby with another woman. It should go without saying that we were not in a good place at the time that child was conceived.’
Gabi and Dwyane began dating in 2008 but according to the athlete’s own 2020 documentary, the pair were on a break when son Zaire, now seven, was concieved.
Though the couple was ‘doing much better’ when he revealed his secret to her, she was heartbroken.
‘To say I was devastated is to pick a word on a low shelf for convenience,’ The actress explained. ‘There are people—strangers I will never meet—who have been upset that I have not previously talked about that trauma. I have not had words, and even after untold amounts of therapy I am not sure I have them now.’
Gabi was particularly hurt given how hard she was trying to have a baby with Dwyane.
‘The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily—while I was unable to—left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind,’ she wrote.
‘We gathered what we could to slowly remake me into something new. There was no way to disguise where I’d been glued back together.’
‘Clearly, my feelings weren’t originating from a healthy place. So much of what made the decision so difficult was that if I didn’t submit to a surrogacy, then I was convinced I needed to let Dwyane go. Even if he didn’t want to, I had to let him find someone who could give him what he wanted.’
‘But I loved him. Each day, he had worked to be forgiven, and I had chosen to do so. And part of this journey of making peace with our love is also making peace with ourselves. I had come to accept that without that awful collision in our lives—this Big Bang moment in our relationship that set our galaxy as we knew it—we wouldn’t have become the individuals we wanted to be. The me of today would not have stayed with him, but would I be who I am now without that pain? I remember a small voice in my heart telling myself to leave, but my fear of public humiliation was so great that I didn’t take my own advice.’
She concluded, ‘In the aftermath, I invested so much time in making peace between us that I gave myself absolutely no self-care. And now there I was, still putting my life second to some shared mission. Why was I so willing to risk myself for a chance? If there was another way for me to bring my baby into the world, and have my health, why was it so hard for me to make peace with that?’