Mom sparks furious debate after revealing she doesn’t let her children go to sleepovers
A mother has sparked furious debate after revealing she doesn’t allow her children to attend sleepovers because she believes they are unsafe.
Tara Huck, from Virginia, sent internet users into a frenzy after she shared her ‘unpopular parenting opinions’ to both TikTok and Instagram, garnering reactions from other moms.
In a viral video, which amassed over 8,000,000 views on social media, the mom shared that she declines her children’s request to stay the night at a friend’s house due to the potential threats that could come to them while they sleep.
And while Tara knew not every parent on the web would agree with her stance, she never imagined she would create such a large divide amongst social media users as a result of her clip.
Captioning the video, ‘This should be fun,’ the mom detailed her top three parenting takes, beginning with no overnight stays.
Tara Huck , from Virginia, sent internet users into a frenzy after she shared her ‘unpopular parenting opinions’ to both TikTok and Instagram
She sparked furious debate after revealing she doesn’t allow her children to attend sleepovers because they are unsafe
Captioning the video, ‘This should be fun,’ the mom detailed her top three parenting takes, beginning with no overnight stays
‘Unpopular parenting opinions: I don’t allow sleepovers, as long as school and chores are done, I don’t limit screen time, [and] if they don’t eat what I eat, they don’t eat,’ Tara said.
And her first rule struck a nerve with other parents.
In a follow-up video, the mom revealed she had received hate over the clip.
‘People are coming for me, I mean making troll accounts left and right, sending me nasty messages, wishing death upon me, all because I don’t allow sleepovers,’ she explained after her parenting opinions video went viral.
The mom clarified that she allows her children to have fun and go to friend’s houses, however, ensures she picks them up before bedtime.
Explaining her reasoning behind the rule, she said: ‘You don’t know what’s going to happen, and it has nothing to do with me not trusting my kids.
‘It has nothing to do with me not wanting my kids to have fun, it has nothing to do with anything besides the fact that you can not be positive that something won’t happen to your children at somebody else’s house.
‘Even if you trust those people they could have older siblings, parents, friends staying over, there are a million other factors.
‘There’s too many other factors that I’m not willing to risk my children’s safety for them to have a sleepover.’
The mom clarified that she allows her children to have fun and go to friend’s houses, however ensures she picks them up before bedtime
Explaining her reasoning behind the rule, she said: ‘You don’t know what’s going to happen, and it has nothing to do with me not trusting my kids’
Despite the hate, Tara said she ‘sticks’ by what she said.
Speaking to Today, the mom explained that her she implemented the rule for the protection of her children.
‘I feel like kids are most vulnerable when they’re sleeping. I’m just trying to eliminate one very small factor that could potentially harm them.
‘If they could come out of their childhood without having had a very traumatic experience, whatever that experience could be, well, that’s all I’m trying to do,’ she said.
Dr. Sara Douglas, a Manhattan pediatric neuropsychologist, echoed the concerns of Tara as she told Today that parents should be cautious as it’s normal for parents to fear sexual assault, drugs, alcohol use, and bullying occurring at sleepovers.
She explained that parents should feel ‘comfortable’ asking other parents various questions if they are debating allowing them to stay overnight.
Dr. Douglas noted that parents should ask about gun ownership and storage, who else will be in the home, food concerns, and even if ask their own child if they even want to go.
‘There aren’t any wrong questions, and there shouldn’t be any limitations on what a parent feels comfortable asking another parent,’ the pediatric neuropsychologist told Today.
Many parents were quick to criticize Tara for her rule, even after she explained her reasoning
And while she suggested parents ask questions, Dr. Douglas noted that sleepovers are also beneficial for children as they help create stronger bonds and offer social and developmental benefits that see them learning to become more independent.
Many parents were quick to criticize Tara for her rule, even after she explained her reasoning.
One person wrote: ‘Why no sleepovers? Were you deprived as a good to have friends and spend time with them?! Just curious.’
Another user commented: ‘Just a suggestion. If your child wants a friend to stay over let them. never know their home life and that might be a meal and warm bed for a night.’
‘No sleepovers? Yikes. Those are some of my favorite childhood memories!’ said one user.
Another person said: ‘You’re going to end up with the kids that turn out to be really bad behind your back, you’re messing up girl.’
Other parents had the mom’s back and noted that they adapted the same rule for the protection of their children
Other parents had the mom’s back and noted that they adapted the same rule for the protection of their children.
One person said: ‘After working in Law Enforcement for 5.5 years now I do not allow sleepovers either.’
‘That’s how I plan to do it too! we don’t do sleepovers because I don’t trust other people and I don’t want to watch someone else’s kids,’ another user added.
‘I don’t allow sleepovers either! As someone who had an unpleasant experience with a friends dad I will not allow that to happen to my daughter,’ wrote one user.
Another person commented: ‘And that’s called good parenting. My mom did the same thing and I will do the same thing.’