Mother blasts her parents-in-law for going to the pub instead of looking after her children when she needed to go to hospital – but is told SHE’S being unfair for asking when they already had plans
- British woman said in-laws chose to go to pub instead of looking after her kids
- Mother-of-two added she wanted them to watch them while she went to A&E
- Posting on Mumsnet, she admitted she’s ‘livid’ even though they’ve apologised
- Responses were torn as some argued she could’ve brought the children with her
A woman who asked her husband’s parents to look after their children while she went to hospital for a medical emergency has revealed she was left furious after they refused because they had plans to go to the pub.
Posting anonymously on Mumsnet, the British woman explained her in-laws said they would only look after her children if they were unable to find someone else, because they already had plans.
She went on to say they texted to apologise for not being more willing to help, adding that while her husband has forgiven them, she’s still ‘absolutely livid’ and doesn’t care about them anymore.
However, responses to the post were divided – with some agreeing the in-laws should’ve helped with the children, and other arguing she shouldn’t have asked them because the kids could’ve gone with her to the hospital.
An anonymous woman, who lives in the UK, has sparked a debate about asking in-laws for favours (file image)
Posting on Mumsnet, the mother-of-two explained her that parent in-laws were unwilling to look after her children while she went to hospital (pictured)
Venting her feelings, the woman wrote: ‘OK so a few weeks ok I had a medical emergency and needed to go to the hospital (broken bone). I have 2 young children under 3.
‘This was at a weekend and my DH was at home with me, we decided to call his family to ask if they would come to watch the children whilst DH took me to the hospital (covid restrictions so he was only dropping me, would have been 45mins maximum).
‘They weren’t very keen as they were going to the pub said they would come if we couldn’t find anyone else.’
The woman went onto reveal that she ended up making other arrangements and was home within three hours.
She continued: ‘His parents did txt him the day after saying they felt bad and DH said dont worry about it (he is very forgiving and doesn’t hold grudges or like being cross with ppl).
‘I am absolutely livid!!! I basically don’t give a flying f*** about them anymore, they always say they are there for us blah blah b******* ive been apart of this family for 16 years, to me actions speak louder than words. AIBU being so angry and hurt??’
Many responses to the post argued the mother was in the wrong for expecting her husband’s parents to cancel their plans (pictured)
In response to the post, many people argued the mother-of-two shouldn’t have expected her in-laws to cancel their plans.
‘I can’t believe you wanted to ruin your pil plans just because you didn’t want to put the kids in the car,’ wrote one. ‘Sounds like taking the kids would’ve been the quicker option too.’
Another commented: ‘They already had plans, fair enough if they were free and said no but they were going out.’
Meanwhile, others admitted they would be equally angry with the in-laws and urged the mother to confront them about their actions.
‘That’s awful OP. I can’t imagine saying no to a request like that, commented one. ‘They should be ashamed of themselves.’
Another penned: ‘I’d be livid too… they couldn’t spare one hour out of their lives to help you. No doubt they told people at the pub who were b**** surprised they were there and not with your kids! And yes, I’d make sure they know… next time they ask for anything I’d be busy’
A third added: ‘I’d be upset too OP, mainly because I’m the type to drop everything if someone needed me. However in recent years I’ve realised I need to lower my expectations of people, just because I’d do something I can’t expect others to do it too.’
Others said they would be angry if their in-laws refused to help in their time of need and urged the mother to voice her frustrations