Woman struggling to save for her ‘dream house’ admits she feels ‘bitter’ that a friend bought a two-bed home after her father gifted her ‘half of the money’ but is told to ‘stop comparing herself to others’
- Anonymous woman, who lives in the UK, is struggling to buy her ‘dream house’
- Posting on Mumsnet, explained a friend bought a house with help from parents
- Admitted she feels ‘bitter’ and knows that she should be happy for her friend
- Responses argued she should make compromises and not compare her situation
A woman who is struggling to purchase her ‘dream’ house has been told to make compromises instead of comparing her situation to friends.
Posting anonymously on Mumsnet, the woman, who lives in the UK, explained she and her husband have good jobs but are still unable to afford a two-bedroom house with a garden and parking.
She said a friend who works part-time has purchased the equivalent after being given money from her father and others who don’t work have secured mortgages with just their husband’s salary.
Responses to the post admitted they’ve also felt ‘bitter’ because of their friend’s accomplishments, but others argued against comparing situations to others and told the woman to make more compromises to achieve her goal instead.
A British woman has revealed she struggles to be happy for her friends who’ve achieved buying a property with help from their parents (file image)
Posting on Mumsnet, the woman explained she and her husband have been saving for a two-bedroom house with a garden and parking (pictured)
Venting her frustrations, the woman wrote: ‘My husband and I have good jobs and work really hard but are still struggling to be able to afford our dream home. Two bedrooms, a garden and parking. Not much I know but it seems impossible…
No matter how hard we work and save we seem to be unable to find a small home and to others it seems to come so easy.’
‘Sorry to rant, and it pains me as I know I should be happy for my friends, but they just have no money worries at all when it comes to securing a mortgage and or paying for it while we would celebrate even being able to afford a small modest home of our own.’
A stream of responses admitted they’re also frustrated with the housing market and have struggled to be happy for those who buy properties.
One person wrote: ‘I agree whole heartedly with you. It really shows how bad the housing market is now that being able to afford a simple home is out of reach to so many. It’s easy for LLs to purchase multiple properties of this size, but impossible for your average person to.
‘Being told to buy a one bed flat is not the answer. Being able to afford a simple home should not be this difficult.’
A stream of people admitted they’re also unable to purchase a house and downsizing isn’t the answer to the problem (pictured)
Another commented: ‘I agree op. And how long do PPs think people should live in shared accommodation for? Until their 50s? It’s just not doable if you have a family.’
However, others argued that feeling bitter won’t improve the woman’s situation and told her to focus on making compromises in her search for a home.
One person penned: ‘I can’t afford to buy either and several of my friends have had their deposits gifted. I’m grateful to have a roof over my head and my time will come eventually. You lose sight of what you have when you spend your time comparing it to what others do.’
Another person penned: ‘Feeling bitter will not solve anything. There will always be situations in which some people have an easier ride than others. Purchasing a house is currently quite difficult so you are not alone.
‘My children haven’t done so yet but they don’t seem bothered by it, nor resent any of their friends who are home owners. They’ll get there in the end and – so will you eventually. Never compare yourself to others, everyone has difficulties in life,’ another wrote.
A third added: ‘You have to decide what is important and what you are able to compromise on. DH and I would have loved a small house in London but it was unaffordable. So we moved out of town and even here we couldn’t get everything we wanted with our budget so chose an extra bedroom as we both now work from home, and scarified parking to get that.’
Others argued the woman should compromise her ambitions and stop comparing her situation to friends