A 27-year-old woman has revealed that she has never dated, kissed, or been physically intimate with anyone in her life, explaining that she wanted to share her story to show others in the same situation that they’re not alone.
‘I’m 27 years old. I have never dated anybody. I have never kissed anybody. I have never been physical in any way shape or form with the opposite sex, and I am attracted to men. Not even come close… ever. Not once,’ the California native shared.
Opening up: Emily Lewis, 27, from California, revealed on TikTok that she has never dated, kissed, or been physically intimate with anyone in her life
Emily said she was inspired to go public about her experience after seeing another woman make a similar confession on TikTok.
‘TikTok just blew up. They just couldn’t believe it. The comments were just insane, and I just wanted to say it because I thought, honestly, there’s not many of us that I know of, and I’d love to know of more,’ she explained.
‘So if there are more men and women out there near this age where it is just bizarre to the world, I would love to know if you exist, and I just wanted to let you guys know that I exist. I want her to know that I exist and that we’re not alone.’
The video has been viewed more than 1.7. million times, and thousands of people have taken to the comments show their support for her.
‘I [wish] I had your self respect. You are a blessing,’ one person wrote, while another added: ‘This needs to be normalized.’
‘I think the most common misconception is that alone DOES NOT equal LONELY,’ someone else noted.
Brave: Emily said she was inspired to go public about her experience because she wanted others in similar situations to know they’re not alone
Going viral: The TikTok has been viewed more than 1.7. million times, and thousands of people have taken to the comments show their support for her
Emily’s candor inspired many others to reveal that they are in similar situations
‘I want to cry because I’ve found my people,’ one TikTok user commented. ‘No one understands me and just judges me and tries to rush me into stuff I’m not okay with.’
‘Uhm… I’m embarrassed but empowered by you to admit this… 33 here and same. It’s great to know I’m not alone,’ another person added.
Someone else wrote: ‘ME! US! WE ARE NORMAL!’
People also had plenty of questions about her upbringing, sexuality, and dating history, which she answered in a series of follow-up videos.
‘I had no idea how much traction my video would get. I didn’t know my life experience, my lack of life experience, would be so relatable,’ she admitted.
Emily stressed that she is happy with her life, and while she would like to find a partner, it’s not her main concern.
Q&A: Emily answered viewers’ questions about her life in a series of follow-up videos, insisting she is not asexual nor does she have too-high standards
Fulfilled: ‘I’ve never set out to not date. I just honestly have never met anybody I would want to get in a relationship with, and I’m really happy single,’ she explained
Nothing to do with it: A number of people had questions about how she was raised, but she said she had a ‘really healthy upbringing’ without any trauma
‘I’ve never set out to not date. I just honestly have never met anybody I would want to get in a relationship with, and I’m really happy single,’ she explained. ‘I just am very fulfilled in my life. So if somebody would come along that I could complement and they would complement me, cool, let’s go. But it just hasn’t happened yet.
‘I’ve been raised in a really small town, really close with my family, just really, really so content and my life feels so full that seeking out a relationship just for a relationship has never been me,’ she added.
Commenters questioned if she is asexual or has too-high expectations, but she insisted none of those things are true.
‘No, I am not asexual. Nothing wrong with that, but I could not be farther from that,’ she said. ‘No, my expectations or my standards are not through the life whatsoever. I just don’t have expectations.
‘I just really trust God 100 percent. He’s not failed me yet, and I don’t believe he ever will, so I will leave the standards and expectations setting to him.’
The TikToker went on to clarify that she has been on a few dates before, but she has never seriously dated anyone.
Candid: In one of the follow-up videos, Emily opened up about her weight loss, explaining she used to weight 325 pounds
Self-love: Emily, who lost over 120 pounds, said a decade ago she used to think, ‘If you were skinny, you could have this,’ but then she realized there wasn’t any guy she actually wanted
‘I’ve never entered in a relationship with anybody,’ she explained. ‘I’m on an online dating website. I’m on Hinge. Nothing has come of it.’
There were also a number of questions about how she was raised, but she said she had a ‘really healthy upbringing’ without any trauma.
‘I am the youngest of six kids, and I am the only one experiencing life in this way,’ she said. ‘So if that helps to answer what role my parents’ upbringing plays in why I am experiencing life the way that I am. It’s pretty safe to say it didn’t.
‘I’m not disappointed in where I am at, so I don’t want to say “can’t blame them” because there is nothing to blame anybody for, and I also don’t want to say “give credit,” even though they deserve credit for a hell of a lot. They’re really epic parents. I just mean I am solely responsible for where I am at 27 years old.’
Emily stressed that she has just never had the opportunity to date anyone, though she has been asked out a couple of times.
‘I’ve definitely had my fair share of crushes. They’ve never been mutual,’ she explained. ‘I’ve never had feelings for somebody the same time they’ve had feelings for me.’
In one follow-up video, she opened up about how she used to weigh 325 pounds. A commenter who was struggling with obesity wanted to know if she felt her previous weight had held her back in any way.
Emily, who lost over 120 pounds, said her weight consumed her thoughts a decade ago when she was feeling particularly insecure. She used to think, ‘If you were skinny, you could have this,’ but then she realized there wasn’t any guy she actually wanted.
Loves: She also discussed how she has a crush on the hotel butler at the resort in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, that she visits annually and how she used to be in love with her male best friend
Living her life: As for getting married and having children, she is open to it, but she knows she will be happy either way
Attitude: ‘If I stay single the rest of my life, I know I can do a really freaking good job of living a good life, so that’s okay,’ Emily said
‘I’d be like, “Who is it that you’re wanting right now that you feel doesn’t want you back? Who?” And I could never come up with anybody that I wanted, like actually wanted to pursue and get in a relationship with,’ she recalled.
‘I just haven’t experience that, so I don’t think that my weight has had anything to do with it. I think it’s more of just I have not met anybody I want to date.
In other clips, she discussed how she has a crush on the hotel butler at the resort in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, that she visits annually and how she used to be in love with her male best friend from the ages 17 to 20.
‘I knew I was absolutely in love with him, but I’m really glad it didn’t go anywhere because now looking back, we would not have been a good match,’ she said. ‘He is amazing, but not for me, and I’m definitely not for him. So, yes, I’ve been in love. I know what it feels like. Those hormones work.’
As for getting married and having children, she is open to it, but she knows she will be happy either way.
‘If I stay single the rest of my life, I know I can do a really freaking good job of living a good life, so that’s okay,’ she explained. ‘But I’ve also, honestly since I was a kid, always pictured myself being married with children. I’ve always had a desire to be a mom, but I’m not set on it.
‘That’s why it’s just so important to me that I remember my value at all times so that I don’t chase something that I think I want and sacrifice something I know I deserve.’