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Australian woman is outraged after her partner secretly goes to dinner with his ex-girlfriend

Is my boyfriend a cheater? Woman is outraged after her partner secretly goes to dinner with his ex-girlfriend – before singles weigh in on the drama

  • Woman heartbroken after boyfriend secretly goes to dinner with an ex-girlfriend 
  • She’s convinced he ‘cheated’ on her but he believed he had done nothing wrong
  • Relationship coach Louanne Ward asked Aussies to weigh in on the situation

A woman is frustrated and upset after discovering her boyfriend secretly went out to dinner with his ex-girlfriend.

The Australian woman nearly ended her relationship with her partner because she was convinced what he did behind her back was considered ‘cheating’.

But the boyfriend has remained adamant he had done nothing wrong for withholding details about dinner; he says he did so because he knew she would get upset.

Relationship coach Louanne Ward shared the story in her Facebook group She Said He Said after the woman went to her ’emotionally charged’ about the situation.

A woman is frustrated and upset after discovering her boyfriend secretly went out to dinner with his ex-girlfriend (stock image)

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Is it cheating if your partner secretly goes out to dinner with an ex?

‘She found out her current partner had secretly gone to dinner with somebody else who was single, wasn’t a buddy. It actually happened to be his ex,’ Louanne said.

‘When she found out, it nearly caused the break up of their relationship. She perceived it as cheating, he perceived it as saving her feelings. He knew that she’d get really upset so he decided to make a judgement call and not tell her.

‘He believes she has trust issues from the past and that he deserves to make his own decisions and not be judged as doing something wrong.’

Louanne asked Aussies to share their opinions on whether they thought going out to dinner with an ex without telling their current partner was a form of cheating.

‘Are blurred lines in a relationship of ‘what’s considered cheating’ a compatibility issue?’ she wrote.

Relationship coach Louanne Ward (pictured) shared the story on social media after the woman went to her 'emotionally charged' about the situation

Relationship coach Louanne Ward (pictured) shared the story on social media after the woman went to her ’emotionally charged’ about the situation

What are the signs of micro-cheating?

  • Reaching out to an ex for emotional support
  • Becoming too friendly with someone
  • Going out with a co-worker and not telling your partner
  • Secretly texting someone
  • Having private jokes with someone who isn’t your partner
  • Catching up with an ‘old flame’ behind your partners back
  • Secretly reaching out to someone you find attractive online

Many weighed in on the topic, with one man suggesting: ‘I’d be murdered if I went to a secret dinner with any girl or ex.

‘That’s not the sort of secret that would do your relationship any good at all for either sex. You’d have to be pretty blasé to do this and you’d have no one to blame but your own stupidity if your partner gave you the flick. 

‘Trust is so critical in any relationship, this would ruin it I would think or certainly start the alarm bells ringing.’

Most agreed it’s a form of cheating, with one man explaining: ‘If he had nothing to hide, he would of told his partner, better yet taken her along or even better not gone out with his ex at all. By not tell his partner he hiding something.’

But some disagreed with the statement, with one woman saying: ‘I wouldn’t call it cheating. However it is completely wrong. He knew it was wrong because he chose not to tell her. He’s now in a relationship with her and it’s sheer disrespect.’

Another woman said she didn’t perceived the situation as ‘cheating’ either but she believed he was being ‘dishonest’ which was a ‘big red flag’ in a relationship.

‘If his intentions were pure then he would have been transparent in the beginning. I would find it very difficult to trust someone if they did that to me and I’d probably end the relationship,’ she explained.

The seven red flags in a relationship

  • Spending a lot of time on their phone
  • Never making plans to meet
  • Never asking questions about you or your life
  • Avoiding introducing you to friends 
  • Always saying they are busy
  • Failure to hold eye contact
  • A niggling doubt or gut feeling that something isn’t quite right

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