A couple who asked their best friend to form a polyamorous triad with them after dating for just one year have revealed how they avoid jealousy in their relationship – while all sharing a bed together every night.
Tia Burt, 21, from Florida, met couple Tayla Means, 25, and Philip Barr, 27, online in October 2019 when the duo – who had been dating for one year – were looking to make new friends.
The trio met in person a few days later and soon became inseparable, spending all of their free time at Tayla and Philip’s house bonding over TV and chatting endlessly.
Three’s not a crowd! Couple Tayla Means (left), 25, and Philip Barr (right), 27, have revealed how they invited their best friend Tia Burt (center), 21, to join their relationship
Love at first sight: Tia met Tayla and Philip, from Florida, online when the couple was looking for new friends, and they met in person just a few days later
Connection: Within months, Tia realized she had formed feelings for Tayla and Philip – who revealed that they both felt the same when she confessed she was falling for them
After three months of friendship, Tia realized she had feelings for the couple and decided to tell them. She was relieved to learn they felt the same and they quickly learned they were stronger as a threesome than a duo.
Tia had only been in monogamous relationships before and was hesitant as she didn’t want to feel less important or loved in the relationship, but Tayla and Philip assured her they would all be equals.
In March 2020 she moved into their house and they invested in a king size bed so they could all sleep together at night.
The threesome insists there is no jealousy in their relationship, with the key being spending time as a three as much as possible so no-one feels left out.
Their families have been accepting, but when they are out together the throuple hold hands and constantly attract stares from other people.
They are now planning to tie the knot in a commitment ceremony in a few years and hope to start a family together.
They started sharing their love publicly in July 2020 by starting an Instagram page documenting the beauty of their partnership and helping to normalize polygamy.
‘I was on an online dating site and came across Tayla and Philip’s profile. They were looking to meet new people just for friendship and I was hoping to do the same,’ Tia said.
Moving ahead: Within five months of their first meeting, Tayla and Philip had invited Tia to move into their home
Special: Philip and Tayla (right) had been dating for a year when they met Tia (pictured left with Tayla), and they both formed an instant connection with her
Future: They are now planning to tie the knot in a commitment ceremony in a few years and hope to start a family together
‘They had already been together a little over a year and I had never even considered a polygamous relationship before, so I wasn’t expecting anything to happen.
‘After a few days chatting online we met in person and there was an instant connection. Everything just seemed so easy and we started hanging out a lot watching TV and talking. I loved getting to know them, but it was a few months before I realized I had feelings for them.
‘I felt so happy whenever I was around Philip and Tayla and whenever we were all together we were constantly smiling. Over time, we all realized it was worth trying.
‘I was hesitant at first because they had their own bond before meeting me and I didn’t want to feel less loved or less important. I stated my concerns very clearly from the start and they assured me I’m an equal in this relationship, which felt amazing.’
Tia moved in with Tayla and Philip after two months of dating – just five months after meeting them online – and they invested in a large bed so they could all sleep together.
The threesome admit it can be hard work to keep everyone happy and secure in the relationship.
‘We all have different schedules so, although we want to do things as a three as much as possible, we know sometimes it can’t happen,’ Tia said.
Equals: Tia (pictured left with Philip and right with Tayla) had only ever been in monogamous relationships in the past, and was initially worried that she wouldn’t feel equal in the romance
Making room: The trio invested in a king size bed so they could all sleep together every night
Speaking out: They started sharing their love on Instagram in July 2020 in a bid to normalize polyamorous relationships
‘Sometimes it’s Tayla and I, Philip and I or Philip and Tayla. We try to make sure everyone gets the support and attention they need and that no-one feels left out because of their work schedules.
‘It takes more energy and work to be in a three-way relationship because there are two people who need you and are counting on you versus just one. We all have different ways of showing our affection to one another, so what might not work for one does for the other.
‘We all have our jealous moments but we just have to be in the moment and enjoy the time we do have together, whether it’s all three of us or just two at a time. It takes a lot of learning and understanding.’
Family: The trio says their families have been supportive of their relationship
They started sharing their love on Instagram in July 2020 in a bid to normalize polyamorous relationships.
‘When we’re all out together and holding hands people will stare and give us odd looks – though no-one has ever been big enough to confront us,’ Tia said.
‘We try not to let it affect us and knew it was something we’d have to deal with. People hear about polygamy and instantly tense up, but it doesn’t have to be like that.
‘We started our Instagram page when we realized there were a lot of other people in relationships like ours, so we decided to put our faces out there and show the world who we are.
‘It means a lot to all three of us to be open and honest about our love, and we receive so much love and appreciation from other people in return.
‘We are planning to have a commitment ceremony in a few years and definitely hope to start a family together one day.
‘I have never considered polygamy before this and it wasn’t something that I was looking for, it just happened. But here we are and it feels great to be loved by two amazing caring people.’