A new mother who had to have 40 staples in her stomach after an emergency C-section has bravely shared photos of her large scar on social media in emotional posts to show others what women’s bodies go through during birth.
Erin Bahadur, 36, from North Carolina, gave birth to her second child, daughter Remy, in December 2020.
The proud mom suffered from a complete placenta previa – when the baby’s placenta covers the mother’s cervix – and a suspected accreta – where the placenta affixes to the uterine wall.
Mother and child: Erin Bahadur, from North Carolina, had to have 40 staples in her stomach after giving birth to her second baby, daughter Remy, via emergency C-section
Marker: The 36-year-old has been left with a large scar running down her abdomen following the procedure, and she is now bravely showing it off on social media
Opening up: ‘I’m a very visual person so taking pictures of my scar helped me normalize what had happened to my body,’ Erin, pictured with her daughter, said
Demonstration: Erin also said that she wanted to help other women realize that not every pregnancy and birth is the same
Her condition meant the safest way to deliver was via emergency cesarean, with a vertical incision stretching from the base of Erin’s stomach to above her naval, bypassing her belly button.
Although the C-section went well, Remy arrived five weeks early and had to spend 15 days in the newborn intensive care unit (NICU), while Erin was left with 40 staples holding her stomach together and a large scar.
The brave mother decided to be candid with her followers on social media, where she has 28,400 followers, and share the reality of her condition.
She is now on a journey to self-acceptance and says she feels ‘proud’ of her body and what it has achieved.
‘I’m a very visual person so taking pictures of my scar helped me normalize what had happened to my body,’ Erin, who works as a blogger, told Jam Press.
‘Sometimes, given all the hormones and sleepless nights, we tend to forget how things were in those early days, so this has been really helpful for me.
‘I also wanted to show other women that not every birth is straightforward and that atypical ones should be celebrated too.
‘The scar represents strength to me.
‘It amazes me that we are medically in a place where I could be opened up and another life taken out like that.
Proud: The mother-of-two has shared images of her stapled scar and her postpartum body on Instagram to help normalize it for other women
Strong: ‘Postpartum isn’t always flowers, balloons, and fresh faces – it’s messy, bloody, squishy, and scary,’ Erin said
‘Amazing’: Erin wants to celebrate how strong her body is, and the incredible things that it has been through while carrying and delivering two children
Emotional: Her powerful social media posts have reduced some users to tears
‘It’s my daughter’s doorway to the world and I’m very proud of it.’
Erin is also mom to two-year-old son Miles, whose birth was also by emergency cesarean, though that time she had the more common horizontal incision.
She has shared images of her stapled scar on Instagram to help normalize it for other women.
Erin captioned the post: ‘Today I’m having 40 staples removed. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
’40 staples that held me together after an uncertain delivery. 40 staples that allowed me to welcome a tiny new life into this world.
’40 staples that will eventually reveal a scar I can show my daughter as her entrance to this world. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
‘Before I have them removed, I want to document them.
‘Postpartum isn’t always flowers, balloons, and fresh faces – it’s messy, bloody, squishy, and scary.
‘It’s bruises from IVs and emotions that are sometimes more complex than anything physical we may carry with us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
‘It’s relearning your own body and realizing how amazing it is for what it can do. ⠀⠀⠀
‘Today I say goodbye to these 40 staples but hello to a forever reminder of an experience that I wouldn’t change for the world.’
Fighter: Erin’s daughter Remy was born five weeks early, and had to spend 15 days in the NICU
Carrying on: The brave mom is now documenting her journey as a mother-of-two, and makes sure to show both the good and the bad
Honesty: ‘If all we see are smiling moms and babies, it can be hard for women to reconcile that if they’ve had a particularly hard or traumatic birth experience,’ she said
Family: Erin, pictured with son Miles and partner Neil, said she wants to ‘talk about the things that people don’t talk about’
Social media users were very touched by the mom’s story and flocked to the comments section, calling the post ‘so beautiful’ and applauding Erin’s vulnerability in sharing it.
One person was particularly emotional after reading the post, commenting: ‘I just came here to say that your post made me cry. So proud of you girl – keep shining.’
Erin regularly shares insights on motherhood on social media, where she blogs about her journey.
She added: ‘We are often given a warm, rosy picture of what motherhood and birth are like, and it’s been my experience both times that that’s not necessarily the case.
‘If all we see are smiling moms and babies, it can be hard for women to reconcile that if they’ve had a particularly hard or traumatic birth experience.
‘I like to talk about the things that people don’t talk about.
‘One of the worst things in motherhood is navigating a new space while also feeling like you’re ‘not doing it right’ or that you didn’t have the same experience as someone else.
‘I want all mothers to feel seen and heard – it’s really important to me.’
You can follow Erin’s motherhood journey on Instagram.