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Sex Pistol’s John Lydon admits it will be ‘tough’ leaving his wife Nora for book tour

He is set to undertake a book tour in the UK next month. 

And Sex Pistols rockerJohn Lydon has said leaving his wife Nora who has Alzheimer’s in LA for the work commitment will be ‘tough’ and ‘full of heartache’. 

The singer, 65, – also known by his stage name Johnny Rotten – married the German publishing heiress, 78, in 1979 and first revealed his wife’s devastating diagnosis in 2018. 

Difficult: Sex Pistols star John Lydon has admitted it will be ‘tough’ leaving his wife Nora who has Alzheimer’s at home when he goes on UK book tour next month (pictured in 2017)

John is touring his book I Could Be Wrong, I Could be Right from September 7 after being forced to postpone it for a year due to Covid. 

Speaking to The Mirror he said: ‘It’s gonna involve a lot of heartache. I need to have monitors in the home. 

‘Being away for lengths of time will be tough and I need to make that as brief as possible.

‘You can’t take situations like my domestic situation on the road, it’s not gonna work. I’ve tried and it drove everybody insane.’ 

Loving: The singer, 65, married the German publishing heiress, 78, in 1979 and first revealed his wife's devastating diagnosis in 2018

Loving: The singer, 65, married the German publishing heiress, 78, in 1979 and first revealed his wife’s devastating diagnosis in 2018

He told how Nora now needs ’24/7 attention’ with her condition, adding: ‘That’s my duty and I’m more than happy to do that. It’s difficult when there’s a workload, but I have to cope with it.’

The former frontman also said he finds Nora’s struggle a ‘strange blessing’ because it’s brought them closer together and he’s learned a lot about himself. 

Earlier this year John candidly discussed becoming a full-time carer for his wife Nora.

The star said that he has now accepted that his beloved wife’s condition is ‘incurable’ and will ‘never improve’.

Work: John is touring his book I Could Be Wrong, I Could be Right from September 7 after being forced to postpone it for a year due to Covid (pictured together in 1984)

Work: John is touring his book I Could Be Wrong, I Could be Right from September 7 after being forced to postpone it for a year due to Covid (pictured together in 1984) 

Speaking to The Times he explained how her Alzheimer’s is a ‘wicked and debilitating’ disease and, although she forgets most things, she ‘doesn’t forget me’.  

He said: ‘Alzheimer’s is a wicked, debilitating, slow, deliberate process, but we’re going through that together.

‘She doesn’t forget me. She forgets everything else but not me.’   

He added: ‘I know it’s going to deteriorate into something really, really terrible, but we’re facing it with a sense of dignity. 

Hell raiser: The singer, known as Johnny Rotten, is pictured with bandmates Glen Matlock and Steve Jones

Hell raiser: The singer, known as Johnny Rotten, is pictured with bandmates Glen Matlock and Steve Jones

‘I mean, it would be easy enough to run away and say, “Oh, it’s not my responsibility; things aren’t the same”. B***cks to that.’

The icon went on to explain that when he made a commitment to her it was ‘forever’ and that he still stands by that, adding that he is ‘proud to do the best I can for her’. 

He said that the couple – who have been married for 45 years – are a ‘proper pair of people who love and adore each other’.  

He also described how he feels lucky to have the money to care for her as, since her illness began to deteriorate, she has accidentally started fires at two of their homes. 

The couple settled in a seaside suburb of Los Angeles in the 1980s and he has another house in Malibu and one in London. 

Since the fires, John has had to replace gas stoves with electric hobs and now prepares the food himself.  

In the interview he detailed how there isn’t a huge amount of help available for her type of illness and that its progression is still a ‘huge unknown’.  

John said that she carries a pink teddy for comfort and gets disorientated easily if she is in a new place, but that they spend quality time together at home watching comedies to keep her brain ‘alert’. 

Candid: Speaking to The Mirror he said: 'It's gonna involve a lot of heartache. I need to have monitors in the home (pictured in 2005)

Candid: Speaking to The Mirror he said: ‘It’s gonna involve a lot of heartache. I need to have monitors in the home (pictured in 2005) 

He went on to say that as a full-time carer you can get ‘quite suicidal’ and there are moments when he is ‘overwhelmingly sad’ but that he just has to accept it.     

The couple never had children but John became stepfather to her daughter Ariane, The Slits singer Ari Up.

John believes Nora showed the first signs of Alzheimer’s after Ariane died of breast cancer 11 years ago, at the age of 48.

Last June John revealed that the couple had been searching out the best possible care for Nora as her condition deteriorated. 

And John revealed how impressed experts have been that she still remembers him, and he suggested ‘a bit of love goes a long way’ when he comes to taking care of her.

He insisted he has no plans of putting Nora into a home in Los Angeles – where they both live – despite the strain her illness has on both their lives. 

Her condition is one of the reasons John has stepped back from the public eye in recent years.   

In a 2018 radio interview, John brought up his wife’s illness, but said he is a natural carer after he became guardian to stepdaughter Ariane’s children.

He said: ‘It’s something I feel I was trained for. One of my jobs before the Pistols was looking after problem children.

‘The Sex Pistols were obviously problem children and anyone younger would also do for me. I’m a natural caregiver, I just can’t help it.’   

WHAT IS DEMENTIA? THE KILLER DISEASE THAT ROBS SUFFERERS OF THEIR MEMORIES

Dementia is an umbrella term used to describe a range of neurological disorders

Dementia is an umbrella term used to describe a range of neurological disorders

A GLOBAL CONCERN 

Dementia is an umbrella term used to describe a range of progressive neurological disorders (those affecting the brain) which impact memory, thinking and behaviour. 

There are many different types of dementia, of which Alzheimer’s disease is the most common.

Some people may have a combination of types of dementia.

Regardless of which type is diagnosed, each person will experience their dementia in their own unique way.

Dementia is a global concern but it is most often seen in wealthier countries, where people are likely to live into very old age.

HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE AFFECTED?

The Alzheimer’s Society reports there are more than 850,000 people living with dementia in the UK today, of which more than 500,000 have Alzheimer’s.

It is estimated that the number of people living with dementia in the UK by 2025 will rise to over 1 million.

In the US, it’s estimated there are 5.5 million Alzheimer’s sufferers. A similar percentage rise is expected in the coming years.

As a person’s age increases, so does the risk of them developing dementia.

Rates of diagnosis are improving but many people with dementia are thought to still be undiagnosed.

IS THERE A CURE?

Currently there is no cure for dementia.

But new drugs can slow down its progression and the earlier it is spotted the more effective treatments are.

Source: Alzheimer’s Society 


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