Bridesmaid is blasted for trying to force the bride to show off her tattoos in a wedding dress in a ‘conservative’ Asian country – even though her parents don’t know she has them
- The anonymous bridesmaid revealed that the bride has secret tattoos
- She said they live in a ‘conservative’ country that sees ink as ‘uncouth’
- But she tried to pressure the bride into showing off her body art on her big day
- The bridesmaid was universally panned for putting pressure on her friend
A tattooed bridesmaid has been blasted for trying to push her soon-to-be married friend into donning a revealing wedding dress – so that she won’t be the only one showing off her body art.
The anonymous bridesmaid, who describes her South East Asian country as ‘conservative’ when it comes to inkings, posted her story to the Reddit Bridezilla group.
In the post, the bridesmaid revealed that she is quite heavily inked, and boasts two full-sleeve tattoos, which she says are seen as ‘uncouth and unprofessional’ in her country.
In contrast, the bride – who is referred to as Hadley – has just a few small tattoos on her arms and ribcage that are easy to hide, and which she had kept secret from her family who hate body art.
A bridesmaid has left Reddit users baffled after revealing she wants her friend to show off her tattoos on her wedding day, even though they’re seen as ‘uncouth’ in the South East Asian country where she’s getting married (stock image)
A bridesmaid has accused her friend of being ‘hypocritical’ for wanting to keep her tattoos covered on her wedding day because she knows her family won’t approve
The poster claimed that her friend – the bride – was being ‘disrespectful’ to her tattoo artists for not wanting to show off her body art during her wedding day
While wedding dress shopping, all the wedding dresses Hadley chose to try on hid her inkings.
The bridesmaid tried to suggest more revealing, strapless dresses, but Hadley said she wasn’t interested.
This irked the bridesmaid, who wrote: ‘I think [Hadley] is restricting her own autonomy by conforming to [her family’s] ideology.’
When the bride said she simply wasn’t confident in showing her arms, the bridesmaid took it as a slight.
The bridesmaid wrote: ‘Somehow, that rubbed me in the wrong way because any artist would love for their pieces to be seen and she was sort of disrespecting the artist by covering it up. And what’s the point of getting tattoos if you don’t show them off?’
The post ended with the bridesmaid branding Hadley unintentionally ‘disrespectful’ to the tattoo artists for hiding their work, adding that her friend is a ‘hypocrite’ for pretending to her conservative parents that she doesn’t have tattoos.
Reddit users soon jumped in to universally pan the poster.
The poster received criticism for saying the bride was ‘restricting her own autonomy by conforming to her family’s ideology’ instead of showing off her tattoos on her wedding day
Opting for the sarcastic approach, one wrote: ‘Ah, yes, I remember, when I lived a couple of buildings away from a tattoo shop.
‘I heard the owner weep every night, unable to sleep at the thought of all the butts, bellies, thighs, and backs that people covered with clothes most of the time, especially when it was cold and at work, instead of advertising his work to the world.’
Another said: ‘It’s a really long way to say “I have tattoos is there somebody here I haven’t spoken to about my tattoos yet?’
Others ridiculed the idea that it’s an insult to the tattoo artist to cover up body art
A further commentator added: ‘So the [bridesmaid] knows tattoos are a touchy subject in the family, she knows they are not accepted where they live, but decided to let the bride know she “doesn’t approve” of her dress choice regardless. That’s some great friend.’
Another Redditor who is planning her own wedding was even more damning, writing: ‘To legitimately tell a bride-to-be that her dream dress is nothing more than her conforming without even CONSIDERING that maybe this just truly is the dress of her dreams is disgusting.
‘And why is it the bride-to-be’s responsibility to stand up against society? I don’t mean to say we shouldn’t try to change the world’s stance on tattoos in the workplace (because I do think we should be more open to it!).
‘But the bride wearing nothing but a bikini down the aisle isn’t going to change the world overnight.’