A couple who met at a swingers party have revealed how they fell in love with another woman and formed a polyamorous triad with her after inviting her to live with them during quarantine.
Tattoo store owner Oscar Gonzalez, 37, from San Juan, Puerto Rico, first met body piercer Samantha Sewell, 22, from Philadelphia, in September 2019 while they were attending the same swinger parties in Pennsylvania.
Neither of them had committed to a monogamous relationship in the past, however they developed deeper feelings for one another and started dating the following month.
Unconventional: Oscar Gonzalez, 37, has revealed how he formed a polyamorous relationship with Samantha Sewell (right), 22, and Amanda Quilles (left), 21, during lockdown
Coming together: Tattoo store owner Oscar met Philadelphia piercer Samantha in September 2019 and they quickly moved in together in San Jaun – before meeting Amanda on Tinder
Circumstances: Oscar and Samantha were used to open relationships, so they decided to seek another partner on the dating app – but only got to go on a few dates before the pandemic hit
Samantha and Oscar fell quickly in love – and the Philadelphia native even moved to her beau’s home city of San Juan so they could set up a tattoo store together.
But while the couple were happy in their relationship, they both missed their swinger lifestyles and decided to seek out a third partner on dating app Tinder – where they came across San Juan sales associate Amanda Quilles, 21.
Amanda was in a polyamorous relationship with two other men when Oscar and Samantha reached out to her – however it quickly broke down when her boyfriend became insecure over the idea of her being with another man.
After this, she began spending more time with the couple.
‘I first met Samantha in September 2019 in Philadelphia and we started out as swinger partners,’ Oscar said.
‘By November, we were seeing each other. I moved back to Puerto Rico and Samantha decided to move in with me shortly after.
‘After a couple of swinging flings later, Samantha started talking with Amanda through Tinder and on January 12, 2020 we met Amanda in person for the first time.
‘When we met Amanda, she had a boyfriend and he had another girlfriend. After about a month, they separated due to his issues with insecurities.’
As the trio started to bond, the COVID-19 pandemic began to cause national lockdowns worldwide and the throuple found themselves stuck together in Oscar and Samantha’s apartment for months on end.
Overcoming obstacles: As San Juan went into lockdown, the trio found themselves living together in Oscar and Samantha’s apartment
Happy as can be: Remarkably, the trio said they all got on incredibly well while quarantined together, and didn’t have a single argument throughout lockdown
Balance: Living together made the trio realize that they were meant to be, and they have now formed an official throuple
After three months of living together without a single argument, the triad knew they were meant for each other and began a closed three-way relationship – only swinging with the full consent of the other partners.
‘We went on a few dates [with Amanda] but then the pandemic hit,’ Oscar explained.
‘Coronavirus created a unique situation where we spent everyday together in our apartment getting closer and having a vacation from the outside world.
‘Soon we realized that the three of us were in love with each other. We had spent everyday together for three straight months without any arguments or jealousy or bitterness.
‘We’ve been together ever since that and have been happily in love living together for a year now.’
According to Oscar, the unique relationship works so well because they are so open to one another’s needs – ensuring that all three can explore other sexual interactions if they want to, but without hurting anyone’s feelings.
‘With Samantha and Amanda both being pansexual girls and me being a straight guy, we have found a love for each other that has worked better for us as a throuple than in any monogamous relationship we’ve ever been in the past,’ he said.
‘We are all in love with each other and even though we have the freedom of dating more partners, we have kept our triad closed and only swing outside our triad with consent from our partner.’
Fortunately, the vast majority of the trio’s family members have been overwhelmingly supportive of their relationship, despite Amanda’s grandparents being Jehovah’s witnesses and Samantha’s mom being a baptist.
‘Surprisingly, our in-laws are ok with our relationship,’ Oscar revealed. ‘Some are more accepting than others but they have managed pretty well and have realized that our love for each other is real.
Bliss: ‘We realized the three of us were in love with each other. We spent everyday together for three straight months without any arguments or jealousy or bitterness,’ Oscar said
Support: The throuple say their families have been incredibly supportive of their relationship – even Samantha’s mom, who is a Baptist Christian
‘Samantha’s mom is for sure the most supportive. She is a 60-year-old disabled, Baptist Christian and posts about our relationship almost daily and how much she loves her daughter and her partners.’
The trio initially worried that the age gap between Oscar and his two partners would be an issue – particularly because he had three children from previous relationships who were not far off in age from the two women.
Upset: While their families have been supportive, the throuple has faced cruel criticism from strangers
Luckily, the three kids – Andrea, 20, Jorge, 19, and Kyle, 17 – have taken the change in their stride and even admit that they love to shock their friends by saying they have two step-mom.
But while they have received loving support from their families, the trio say they do receive plenty of unwanted attention from strangers who often accuse Oscar of being Samantha and Amanda’s ‘sugar daddy’ due to their 15 and 16 year age gaps.
They also receive plenty of stares when they are holding hands or showing affection in public and have had strangers tell them that their relationship is ‘disgusting’ and an ‘abomination.’
The throuple try to dismiss these comments and focus on the positive reaction they see on their social media pages.
‘We get a lot of people saying they admire us and that they want to be like us and wish they could find one person to be with, let alone two,’ Oscar said.
‘Most of the feedback is positive – thankfully people don’t go out of their way to c**p on our love most of the time.
Accusations: People brand the two women ‘gold diggers’ and have even suggested that Oscar is a pimp
Shrug it off: Despite this, Oscar, Samantha, and Amanda say they are happier than ever – and they are currently planning to buy a new home together
Settled down: ‘Our relationship goals aren’t very different from many other long term relationship goals when it comes down to it,’ Oscar said
‘Some hardcore haters still chime in saying things like “that’s not real love,” or “you are disgusting,” or “I bet he pays them,” and “they’re gold-diggers.”
‘Some people have even accused me of being a pimp.
‘Older couples look at us with dismay or almost afraid at times, but that’s the older generation for you.’
The triad’s relationship has financial benefits too. With three incomes, the trio are hoping to buy a bigger house together in the near future and purchase an enormous Alaskan king size bed.
‘It’s a lot of fun to engage with multiple sexual partners with your partners’ consent, but then I realized that I was looking for something more than just sex, I wanted to feel connections and be in love,’ said Oscar.
‘Having this polyamourous relationship has provided that. For us, polyamory is the freedom to love openly as many partners as you want with the consent of every person involved.
‘Our plans for the future include buying a nice house together with our three incomes and to travel as much as possible when we are able to.
‘Also, finding an Alaskan King Bed is a goal for sure, but they can be pretty difficult to come across.
‘Our relationship goals aren’t very different from many other long term relationship goals when it comes down to it.’